Wednesday, November 9, 2016

An Open Letter to Donald Trump

Dear Mr. Trump,

       I'd like to start off by saying that I really mulled over how to address this letter. I wanted to just call you Donald, because I don't think you deserve the respect of a formal address, but since I was raised to do the right thing regardless of whether or not someone "deserves" it, I chose Mr. I just felt that needed to be said.

       I've watched your disgraceful campaign from afar for quite some time now. I was not able to bring myself to watch more than a few minutes of the circus that was the Presidential debates, so I'll admit that I am not as informed as I could be. However, in full disclosure, I didn't honestly think that we would ever be here. That I would ever live in a world where Donald Trump is our President. So I sat back and waited for the spectacle to be over, preparing for the days of "remember when Donald Trump thought he was going to be President?". Except here we are.

      I woke up this morning to an email from a friend in Canada asking me if this was a joke. Facebook messages from family in other countries offering their spare bedrooms if I needed a place to stay. This is how the world views us right now. That we are a joke. They feel for us, the deep heartache that we feel that you are now our "Leader". The United States of America is now a joke, and we have you to thank for that. Now, before we get into the thick of things, I would like to be clear. I believe this whole entire election was a disgrace. You and Hilary. The two of you sunk to the lowest of levels. Abandoning any form of grace, professionalism, or tact. It was disgusting to watch. I was embarrassed for the both of you, that you will forever have footage of yourself behaving this way. This not how our country should be run. This is not how our elections should be run. There was too much blood shed for our country for this to be what we have become. People gave their lives for this? I bet they are turning over in their graves, wondering what happened to the values and convictions that they stood for. I know you can't understand that, being a white male who grew up with the silver spoon in his mouth, but let me break it down for you.

     I in no way am trying to say that I have experienced the most hardships in the world. I am not a person of color. I don't come from a religion that has been persecuted. I am not a member of the LGBT community (though I support them through and through). But I am a female. Someone whose "people" have faced adversity as well. There was a time when my "job" would have been to stay home, clean the house, and have children. That's all I would have been good for. However, thanks to this amazing country, I grew up to think that I could be anything. In the 4th grade, while all of my classmates predicted jobs of doctors, firefighters, etc. I proudly stood up in front of all of my classmates and their parents and said that I was going to be the first female President of the United States. THAT is what the good people of our country have fought for, the belief that we can do anything. That men, women, and children of all race, sexual orientation, and religion are equal. THAT is why America is great.

       It seems however, that we took a giant step backwards last night by electing you. Someone who talks down to women and demeans them. Who thinks nothing wrong with sexual assault. Who thinks that they have every right to put their hands on whomever they want whenever they want. As a SURVIVOR of sexual assault, I just want to take a minute and say FUCK YOU. Keep your grubby, dirty hands to yourself and be glad that there are even actual people in this world who would actually want you to touch them. Leave the rest of us alone. You are someone who thinks that the answer to our immigration problems is to build a giant wall to keep people out. Did you forget that this fine country was built from immigrants? That you are lucky enough to be where you are today BECAUSE of them? Someone who thinks that women shouldn't have a choice over what happens to their body and should be PUNISHED for certain things? Don't even get me started on your stellar choice for  VP who thinks the answer to our "LGBT problem" is conversion therapy. I'm actually slightly impressed that you two were able to find each other. They say everyone has a soul mate and it looks like you found yours.

       I've spent a lot of time being angry about this. I want to kick and scream. Throw my hands up. Move to another country. Leave this circus behind. But, that's exactly what is wrong with our country right now. Those that CAN do good are frustrated, they feel defeated, they are giving up. They are giving into the media, the hysteria, and I can't do that. I have a son to raise. An example to show. I have an obligation to this country to keep fighting, to stand tall, to raise a MAN that will help make this world a better place. To teach him that while the world is full of hateful people like you, good will always win. The sun will always rise on a new day.

      So here is my plea. You got this far. You made it. You leveraged people's fear and frustration into a Presidential nomination. I just want you to remember that at the end of the day, we aren't a risky business deal that you can walk away from. You can't declare "bankruptcy" on being the President of the United States of America. This is our life. Your words. Your choices. Your example. That is going to be what shapes the next 4 years (and hell probably many more after that depending on how much good or damage you do). These 4 years will be the most formative years of some people's lives. You owe it to the people that elected you (and even more so to those that didn't) to remember that. We understand that you have your ideas about what this country should be, but so do we. It is your obligation to do what is best for us all as a WHOLE and not just to follow your own agenda. It is your JOB to keep us safe, to make decisions for our well-being. You just became the Father of over 300 million people. It is your obligation to do right by us.

     I don't need you to turn the world upside down. I don't need you to reinvent the wheel. I don't need you to try and make history to feed your own ego. I just need you to not fuck this up. Can you do that? Can you put aside your own agenda for 4 years and just think about someone else for a change? You want to make America great again? Unite us, don't divide us. The inner turmoil that we are all facing has caused us to turn against each other. The hate, the animosity, the friendships ruined, the families divided. It's because of you. So fix it. Make us great again. Do what you said you would do. Just remember that if you fail, we fail. We lose. Just think about it.

      I know you'll never see this. And I doubt that anyone will make it his far through it, but I needed to say it, to clear my own head. To purge my soul of the hate and negativity that I'm feeling. The sadness I feel for our country. So I dare you. Prove me wrong. Make me eat my words. I'll gladly put my foot in my mouth. Just please, for the love of all that is good, don't fuck this up. We are counting on you, whether we want to or not.


A woman who has worked far too hard to let someone like you push her backwards.